Recently I was talking to one of my childhood friend who has got all the typical girly traits, who knows all about latest fashion stuffs and who is quite popular among the male counterparts of her college.It’s always fun talking to her as I get to know the latest updates of all other school friends(ya she is a hell lot of newsy) …What I noticed lately after talking to her for some 90 mins was that for all my decent and reasonable queries which I could have asked her she had this answer called “thik hi hai” or “may be lets see”…C’mon may be because of our gabby chats into which I was so engrossed ,that I didn’t even pay any heed to her maybes and so I missed the chance to fire her back and use our special argot…Anyways,just after this chatting session one of my friend in hostel came to my room to ask me about her new boyfriend.. I just thought God how can one be so stupid,dumb and foolish all at the same time to ask me such a question..Such a poor fish she is who wants to be with a guy who has nothing special in him in fact I would rate him as the most disgusting guy of the college..But sshhhh!!! I couldn’t have uttered all this or else she would have kicked me hard…So the most decent,appropriate and reflexive answer which came out all of a sudden from me was…”wo thik hi hai may be lets see you will be happy together”…Bingo she was so very pleased with my answer(May be she hadn’t even expected this much of positivism for him).
Now of course I had to think deep of why at times all the forthrightness of a person goes mute and he or she cannot stand bold on her “Yeses and Nos” Of course there can be hundreds of reasons..In my case I didn’t want to hurt my friend(and also didn’t want to get hurt by her).. In fact this has to be the reason in most scenarios since you cannot express your incisive views to just any other XYZ..One needs to be a diplomat to survive in their surrounding..And so we need to tamper the Darwin’s theory of “survival of the fittest” every now and then because at times we just pretend so very hard to show how fit we are for our surrounding J.
Of course we all are not diplomats..Some of us are innocents and confused with the potpourri of options we have today..For example ask my mom her favourite daily soap and she would end up recalling all the serials she watches….She would say it sweetly “sab to thik hi hain”(she cannot decide which ‘K’ serial is the best..Ohh really how can it be)..Ask my sister to buy a dress she won’t leave you without taking a round of every single shop of the city.(and I have been the victim many a times J)....Coz every dress seems just ok to her not at all good or bad and she got to get the bestest dress when she is paying the money …clean funda!!
Now the more I am analyzing this “thik hi hai” phrase the more frequently I am using it..So I do need to get rid of this syndrome..Trying my best and hopefully I will recover till I write the next blog..
Cheers!!
Akshya
Your lines remind me of an old saying---Satyam bruyat,priyam bruyat,na bruyat satyam apriyym,i.e. don't speak unpleasant truth.No one likes this.But there may come ocassions when you have to speak true but unpleasant things.Now it is for you,how you deliver it.Here wits, intellegence and tact come into light .You have to enact your role,as a Shahrukh or as a flop.
ReplyDeleteIt reminds me of the diplomatic situations i need to deal in my day to day life.... where i cannot speak my heart out loud nd my last resort is... "thik hi hai" ....nice piece f work... really good keep it up... :)
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